Author: Mary Eberstadt
Year of Publication: 2004
Page Count: 218
Mary Eberstadt is a former research fellow for Stanford University’s Hoover Institution, and currently serves as senior research fellow at the Faith and Reason Institute, a conservative Roman Catholic think tank based in Washington, D.C. In her first book, Home-Alone America: the Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes (2004, 218 pages), Eberstadt sought to answer a series of what she called “obvious, if necessarily blunt” questions: Why are millions of children being prescribed drugs to change their behaviour? Why are depression, anxiety, and behavioral disorders becoming more and more common among young people? Why has childhood obesity become an epidemic in America? And what is behind the epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases among American teenagers?
Issue by issue, Eberstadt explores these questions thoroughly, and the answer she provides is well-reasoned, based in common sense, despite being roundly rejected and criticized by social scientists and public intellectuals who she refers to as “separationists.” Eberstadt’s thesis is that there is a definite connection between decreased parental presence in children’s lives and the severity of the problems that children face, problems that begin in childhood and often lead to negative repercussions throughout their lives.I very much appreciated the way in which Eberstadt honestly addresses challenges to her thesis. She examines studies done in the social sciences, deals with the argument that “correlation does not equal causation” (which says that just because absentee fathers, working mothers, daycare, and divorce are often realities in the lives of troubled children, that doesn’t mean that these things actually cause the problems children face), and emphasizes that long-term studies ask the wrong questions, and therefore come to erroneous conclusions. For example, while studies of adults who spent a good part of their childhood years in daycare may show that the majority have become successful, contributing members of society, these “results” say nothing about the suffering caused by institutional care and separation from parents and other family members while that separation is actually being experienced by the child.
Eberstadt presents a solid and compelling case for the vital role that parents have in the lives of their children, and for the necessity of self-sacrifice on the part of parents. While this book is now nearly twenty years old, it speaks loudly and clearly in a culture that has continued to follow the same destructive path, and is very much worth reading.